Divorcing? Got Kids? You’re Not Ending A Relationship, Just Changing One.

If restoring the marriage isn’t an option and with only a vague idea of what your legal rights are, you may feel you need the help of an expensive, aggressive lawyer. That’s not going to get you a peaceful divorce.

Or you may make the mistake of accepting unfair agreements because you are emotionally exhausted or don’t have the strength to stand up to your spouse. A year or two down the road, you may regret your choices. You should have someone to look out for you and make sure you are being treated fairly.

Or you may make the mistake of completing your divorce or legal separation with agreements on custody, support, assets & debts so lacking in detail that the court can’t enforce! So you and your ex will be haggling again and again over missing details and unclear boundaries.

Because you have kids, it is vital to establish a peaceful divorce- a divorce as resentment-free as possible. Parents can accomplish that by avoiding the lingering emotional and financial damage of a lawyer-driven courtroom divorce, or one that is unfair and lacking enforceable detail because they didn’t have experienced guidance.          

Here are 3 Reasons Why to Begin with Family Matters Instead of an Attorney

#1: mediation is the most time-efficient and stress-free method of dissolving your divorce.

Here are some of the many issues that we settle:

  • Sustainable Child Support & Spousal Support Amounts 
  • A Detailed, Durable Child Custody Schedule, including Holidays & Vacations 
  • Agreements on Additional Shared Costs for kids
  • Addictions & Custody Matters
  • Care for Adult Children
  • Move-Aways 
  • A Fair Property Division of All Assets & Debts
  • A Fair Division of Pensions, IRA’s, Deferred Compensation Plans
  • Options to Continue Home Ownership
  • Post Judgment Modifications
  • Requests for New Orders 
  • Temporary Emergency Orders
  • Parenting Orders for unmarried couples
  • All Judicial Forms Produced 
  • Complete Divorce, Legal Separation or Action Filed with the Court

#2: mEDIATION helps create a healthy relationship with the other parent, for the good of the kids.

One or two years down the road, after the initial emotions have settled and lives have progressed, parents need to be able to look at each other without lingering resentments or the sense that one got over on the other. Your kids need that.

Ironically, the very skills that a healthy marriage needs–communication, cooperation & compromise–are the same skills that you need right now to establish a fair, detailed, resentment-free divorce! How on earth can those skills manifest now if they derailed during the marriage? That’s my job. I can guide even the most conflict-oriented cases to a place where your children are able to maintain an uncomplicated love bond with both parents because their parents forged a peaceful divorce.


Lawyers can’t change the law or the truth. Everything you need to know about your legal rights is readily available to you through legal articles I provide, California Law Code fair, and plain common sense. California Guideline Law is the reference point for resolution. Mediation is the tool for blending it with overall fairness.

Let us guide you through divorce fairly and inexpensively.